PERFORM for ACCEPTANCE
Most people have a common desire to be accepted by others. Do you know anyone who doesn’t seek to be accepted? I don’t think I do. Growing up, I felt that I had to perform in order to be accepted. When I was good at something it seemed that others would pay attention—that they would like and accept me. Experience quickly taught me that good performance equaled acceptance while poor performance often meant some kind of rejection. So, driven by the desire to be accepted, I worked to achieve. Still, I was nagged by the suspicion that whatever I did would not be enough. Unfortunately, I also learned this same lesson in church and in a variety of ways. For example, as a kid, I was part of our church’s Bible Drill program. Every Wednesday night, we learned one of the books of the Bible and on Sunday evening we would compete against other. The one who turned to the verse first and read it out loud the most times, would get a gold star by our name on the Bible Drill roster. Another star w